As a victim or family of a crime victim, it doesn’t just happen that you are close friends years later. With God, this is completely different. He wants to make himself known through the Bible. He, the Maker and King of the universe, the highest spiritual power, wants to adopt us as children. He wants to establish a connection with us, as close as in a marriage. If you allow it, He wants to guide your life through the Holy Spirit. In prayer we can open our hearts to Him, ask Him to come and dwell in our hearts through the Holy Spirit and renew us from within, ask Him to help us follow and obey Him, ask to teach us to read from the Bible and to understand and to give our lives in His Hands. We may also thank God that we receive strength to become a child of God. Out of that relationship with God, He wants to change our thinking (desires) and actions (choices) through the Holy Spirit. As a result, you start to consider yourself less and less important and God and the people around you become more and more important. The more you become connected to God, the more free you become from addictions and the more you want to engage with those around you. The rules of God that were at first confrontational and oppressive you begin to appreciate and want to live by.